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Why is being single better than being in a bad relationship?

If you are in an unhealthy relationship, here is why you should reconsider your decision and think about being alone rather than with someone on bad terms.

Relationships don’t guarantee happiness; being in a relationship should not be the ultimate goal of life other than staying truly happy. According to a study, the quality of one’s dating relationships during adolescence has a huge impact on shaping their attitudes and behaviours relevant to future intimate partnerships, and also on their own identity development, self-esteem and interpersonal skills.

When it comes to dating, people are perplexed; they fear being in bad relationships. But they also fear being alone, so they settle for individuals who don’t live up to their ideals, just for the sake of having a support system or simply because the idea of being in a relationship gives them peace of mind.

If you are in an unhealthy relationship, here is why you should reconsider your decision and think about being alone rather than with someone on bad terms.

1. You have all the freedom you want

In all relationships, boundaries are important. However, being stuck in a relationship with someone that does not respect boundaries and limits your freedom can be stifling.

This is why being single beats being in a bad relationship. You can do whatever you want to, you are free to go wherever you please, and you can talk to whomever you like, without having to explain yourself to anyone.

Sadly, too many people are afraid of being on their own, and they fall into toxic relationships just to avoid being lonely.

Just living is not enough. One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower. — Hans Christian Andersen.

2. You only need to please yourself

According to psychology, when you are in a bad relationship, you feel a need to overcompensate. Your mind convinces you that the pain in the relationship is a result of something you are not doing well enough to please your partner. Having to constantly please someone else’s needs can be absolutely exhausting, especially if this someone is the wrong one.

Being single allows you to live life the way you want to and there are no “what if” or “ what went wrong” thoughts in your mind. You know best what is good for you and when you are single, you are the only person you need to please and satisfy.

The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. It creates the basis for all other relationships in your life.

Why is being single better than being in a bad relationship?

3. Rebuilds the lost self-esteem

Low self-esteem thoughts like “I am not good enough for anyone” or ” I am not pretty for anyone else” or “I don’t deserve a better person in life” define an unhealthy relationship.

This could be because of being treated in a way that damaged your self-esteem and made you feel worthless and insignificant. Being in a relationship definitely does not mean any of these feelings.

Therefore, now is the time to start rebuilding your importance again, even if sometimes it makes you look selfish. Never forget that your well-being should be your top-most priority.

4. You are not taken for granted

Almost every relationship seems perfect at the beginning. You’re madly in love, and you can’t get enough of each other.

But in a bad relationship, your partner starts neglecting you and taking you for granted. And you stand there, wondering how it went down so fast.

Newsflash: You don’t deserve to feel unworthy and broken all the time!

You deserve to be genuinely loved! And if your partner can’t appreciate you, they don’t deserve you. Be single instead, and fall in love with yourself until you find the one who will accept and adore you just as you are.

There comes a time when you need to stop crossing oceans for people who would not jump over puddles for you.

5. Peace of mind

There are ups and downs in any relationship. If the fights or arguments between you and your partner have become a routine that is interfering with the quality of your life, it’s time to get separated and stay alone with some peace of mind.

This phase is important as it allows you to realise your self-worth and how you deserve to be treated by others.

It’s also the time to forgive yourself, surround yourself with positive people, and not let your future relationships be affected.

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